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Divorcing a master manipulator

On Behalf of | Sep 16, 2022 | Divorce, Family Law

Manipulators are people who seek to take control or influence others in a clever and skillful manner. Often, it is at the expense of others since the manipulator is only out to look for their own interests.

If your spouse is a master manipulator, life can get pretty difficult. They may use tactics such as gaslighting, the “silent treatment,” isolation or even lying to have their way. You can get confused and uncertain of what to feel or think if someone always acts like you are to blame for everything that goes wrong. It could be damaging to your self-esteem, mental health, and confidence.

Here is what you need to do when divorcing a master manipulative spouse.

Have a game plan

A manipulative person knows just the buttons to push to trigger you. Therefore, you need a strategy when divorcing them. Keep your plans under wraps, and do not show your cards until you have everything in place.

Consider minimizing communication with them. That way, you will not be under anyone’s perceived sense of power over you. If you have to talk, be professional and maintain your cool. You can bring a friend along if it makes you feel better or safer.

Lastly, surround yourself with your social support circle of family and friends. You are more vulnerable to manipulation tactics if you stay by yourself, without any positive distractions.

Get legal protection

Manipulation is abusive behavior, and you must act before it spirals out of control. If your spouse is a master manipulator, you should be aware of what you can do to protect yourself from physical or emotional abuse.

Equally, you must be prepared to navigate the divorce process and protect your legal rights throughout the proceedings. It is advisable to seek legal representation when dealing with a manipulative spouse to avoid falling victim to their layered deceit.